The True Melissa <thetruemelissa@gmail.com> wrote or quoted:
In article <10j1au6$21t7l$1@dont-email.me>,
Silvano@noncisonopernessuno.it says...
The True Melissa hat am 30.12.2025 um 19:31 geschrieben:Why is that unexpected, though?
In article <10j14dg$1vp64$1@dont-email.me>,Unexpected, but I thank you for your answer.
I can't speak for other people, but I would rather have
heard "ma'am" at both ages.
Language changes and depends on the region. "Good man" used
to be a respectful, uplifting form of address (as was noted
here recently), but today it's rejected as condescending.
With "ma'am", some people, especially in the United Kingdom,
feel insulted as if the address makes them feel "old".
She was married (very unhappily it seems)
for most of the period in which she worked
on the first Harry Potter book. (by wikip)
(I seem to remember a story that he had stolen her written pages,
and used access to them as a means of blackmailing her)
Some people, of both sexes, seem to thing that there's something
shameful about a woman aging. Everyone ages.
The condescention sometimes gets so strong that men (it's always men;
never seen a woman do this) will constantly refer to elderly women as
"young ladies."
Verily, in article <1roa0lw.1fp10qx1qlb5idN%nospam@de-ster.demon.nl>,
did nospam@de-ster.demon.nl deliver unto us this message:
[snip]
She was married (very unhappily it seems)
for most of the period in which she worked
on the first Harry Potter book. (by wikip)
(I seem to remember a story that he had stolen her written pages,
and used access to them as a means of blackmailing her)
That's the way she tells it, but he denies this story. There's no way to
find out for sure.
In article <MPG.43c31e916f32af859899bf@news.eternal-september.org>,
The True Melissa <thetruemelissa@gmail.com> wrote:
The condescention sometimes gets so strong that men (it's always men;
never seen a woman do this) will constantly refer to elderly women as
"young ladies."
Which reminds me that ham operators of a certain age (always men, of
course) would refer to a "girl"friend as a "young lady" or "YL" for
short. I was very confused by the abbreviation "XYL", which to them
meant "ex-'young lady'", i.e., wife, but to me was equally obviously something else entirely. For a while I thought there were an awful
lot of bisexual 70-something hams.
-GAWollman--
(not a ham and still only 50-something)
In article <MPG.43c31e916f32af859899bf@news.eternal-september.org>,
The True Melissa <thetruemelissa@gmail.com> wrote:
The condescention sometimes gets so strong that men (it's always men;
never seen a woman do this) will constantly refer to elderly women as >"young ladies."
Which reminds me that ham operators of a certain age (always men, of
course) would refer to a "girl"friend as a "young lady" or "YL" for
short. I was very confused by the abbreviation "XYL", which to them
meant "ex-'young lady'", i.e., wife,...
On 03/01/2026 22:15, Garrett Wollman wrote:
In article <MPG.43c31e916f32af859899bf@news.eternal-september.org>,
The True Melissa <thetruemelissa@gmail.com> wrote:
The condescention sometimes gets so strong that men (it's always men;
never seen a woman do this) will constantly refer to elderly women as
"young ladies."
Which reminds me that ham operators of a certain age (always men, of course) would refer to a "girl"friend as a "young lady" or "YL" for
short. I was very confused by the abbreviation "XYL", which to them
meant "ex-'young lady'", i.e., wife, but to me was equally obviously something else entirely. For a while I thought there were an awful
lot of bisexual 70-something hams.
Still less offensive (IMO) than the Ham radio reference to "Seat Covers".
Verily, in article <1roa0lw.1fp10qx1qlb5idN%nospam@de-ster.demon.nl>,
did nospam@de-ster.demon.nl deliver unto us this message:
[snip]
She was married (very unhappily it seems)
for most of the period in which she worked
on the first Harry Potter book. (by wikip)
(I seem to remember a story that he had stolen her written pages,
and used access to them as a means of blackmailing her)
That's the way she tells it, but he denies this story. There's no way to find out for sure.
"Hello, is that Peter?"
Welcome callers usually start differently, though, by identifying
themselves and/or by saying what the call is about. "Hello, I'm calling
from Dr Ferencz's rooms." Only junk callers think that I should be the
first to identiify myself.
In the past, I sometimes ended up saying "If you don't tell me what this
call is about, I'm hanging up". Now I just put the phone down and let
them listen to background noises.
Sam Plusnet <not@home.com> wrote:
On 03/01/2026 22:15, Garrett Wollman wrote:
In article <MPG.43c31e916f32af859899bf@news.eternal-september.org>,
The True Melissa <thetruemelissa@gmail.com> wrote:
The condescention sometimes gets so strong that men (it's always men;
never seen a woman do this) will constantly refer to elderly women as
"young ladies."
Which reminds me that ham operators of a certain age (always men, of
course) would refer to a "girl"friend as a "young lady" or "YL" for
short. I was very confused by the abbreviation "XYL", which to them
meant "ex-'young lady'", i.e., wife, but to me was equally obviously
something else entirely. For a while I thought there were an awful
lot of bisexual 70-something hams.
Still less offensive (IMO) than the Ham radio reference to "Seat Covers".
That was a CB term, I have never heard it used in the amateur radio
bands.
(G8HEH)
On 04/01/2026 10:35, Liz Tuddenham wrote:
Sam Plusnet <not@home.com> wrote:
On 03/01/2026 22:15, Garrett Wollman wrote:
In article <MPG.43c31e916f32af859899bf@news.eternal-september.org>,
The True Melissa <thetruemelissa@gmail.com> wrote:
The condescention sometimes gets so strong that men (it's always men; >>>> never seen a woman do this) will constantly refer to elderly women as >>>> "young ladies."
Which reminds me that ham operators of a certain age (always men, of
course) would refer to a "girl"friend as a "young lady" or "YL" for
short. I was very confused by the abbreviation "XYL", which to them
meant "ex-'young lady'", i.e., wife, but to me was equally obviously
something else entirely. For a while I thought there were an awful
lot of bisexual 70-something hams.
Still less offensive (IMO) than the Ham radio reference to "Seat Covers".
That was a CB term, I have never heard it used in the amateur radio
bands.
(G8HEH)
My mistake. Sorry.
| Sysop: | Amessyroom |
|---|---|
| Location: | Fayetteville, NC |
| Users: | 54 |
| Nodes: | 6 (0 / 6) |
| Uptime: | 13:46:19 |
| Calls: | 742 |
| Files: | 1,218 |
| D/L today: |
3 files (2,681K bytes) |
| Messages: | 183,470 |
| Posted today: | 1 |