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A man says he is refusing to babysit his nephew after his sister insulted
his same-sex relationship ù and he's taken to social media to ask others
if he's in the wrong.
The man, 20, posted to Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum on Tuesday, Dec.
10, to recount a conversation he had with his sister, Amanda, 28, during a recent family barbeque. The poster said he attended the event with his 22- year-old boyfriend, Ryan.
After the get-together, the original poster shared that his sister pulled
him aside and said, "Hey just so you know it might be better if you don't
bring Ryan to the next few family gatherings."
When pressed about the comment, Amanda "got all awkward" and claimed her 4-year-old son, Jack, was asking questions about the Redditor's
relationship with his boyfriend ù apparently also arguing that Jack "isn't
old enough to understand all that yet."
"I told her we werenÆt exactly putting on a Pride parade in her yard. We
were literally just eating hot dogs and chatting with family," the
original poster shared. "She replied, 'ItÆs just confusing for him. You
know how kids are.' "
"I was mad but kept it together," the poster recalled, noting that he
said, ôIf Ryan isnÆt welcome, maybe I just wonÆt come eitherö ù to which
his sister accused him of being dramatic.
However, the real family drama began when Amanda called her brother and
asked him to babysit on short notice.
"I told her I couldnÆt because Ryan and I already had plans. She begged,
saying she was desperate, and I finally snapped 'Why do you want me
babysitting Jack? What if I accidentally expose him to my terrifying gay lifestyle? God forbid he sees me and Ryan together.' "
A blow-out fight ensued, with Amanda accusing her brother of punishing his nephew "because you're mad at me."
The poster says his sister then involved their parents, with his mother ultimately taking his sister's side. "Mum brushed it off saying 'SheÆs
just doing whatÆs best for her child,' " to which the poster says he
replied, "What about whatÆs best for me? Why do I have to hide part of my
life to make her comfortable?"
Meanwhile, their dad took the Redditor's side, noting that, "Kids arenÆt confused by love, they're confused by people acting like it's something to hide."
The argument escalated to a family group chat, with some family members
siding with the sister and others supporting the original poster.
Most of the Reddit forum users told the original poster that he is "not
the a------," with one commenting, "ItÆs disappointing that this has
divided your family, it really brings out their true colors. I think you
should go little to no contact with your sister."
In response to that message, the original poster says he hasn't "spoken to
my sister in days now" and is considering ending their relationship.
"Some of these comments are saying that she is using [her son] as a way to
hide her homophobia and honestly now that I think about she might be," he writes. "WhatÆs confusing to me is my whole family were supportive of me
when I came out and they all were so nice and respectful to [my boyfriend]
when I introduced him to the family. I just donÆt know why everyone has switched up all of a sudden."
"What 'awkward questions' are they talking about?" wrote another
commenter. "ItÆs really very easy to explain to a four-year-old that grown adults can be in a relationship with each other, whether itÆs a man and a woman, two men, or two women."
"I know itÆs easy because I did that for my own child when he was little," continued the same commenter. "[Your nephew] can totally handle your relationship . . . itÆs the adults in your family who cannot. You are absolutely right to object and to not babysit if this is the attitude they
are going to give you about it."
https://people.com/man-refuses-to-babysit-nephew-after-sister-asks-him-to- stop-bringing-his-boyfriend-to-events-8760452
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