• Long weekend (not the good kind)

    From poindexter FORTRAN@21:4/122 to All on Tue Oct 8 07:52:00 2024
    We've been managing my mom's cognitive decline recently. The past few
    weeks have been dealing with my mom thinking the neighbors were calling
    her crazy, people driving by the house and looking in while she's
    cooking, and hearing people in her back yard.

    She has a urinary tract infection, apparently they present with
    hallucinations often in elderly women.

    7 days of oral antibiotics later, needing to make sure she keeps track
    of the dosage, and she's still experiencing problems.

    Saturday morning, she fell in the bathroom, breaking her hip and elbow.
    Wasn't wearing her medicalert necklace, she's lost it and didn't tell
    me. She had to crawl to the phone to call me. Ambulance ride to the
    hospital, lots of regular hallucinations combined with no food for 18
    hours while they try to get her into surgery, then post-anasthesia
    grogginess. All this happened on her 86th birthday.

    They have her on an IV for liquids, an antibiotic drip for the UTI, and
    they're monitoring her food intake. So, that's good. I got the feeling
    she's been skipping meals out of lack of appetite or forgetting about
    meals.

    We had just looked at assisted care facilities last week, and were
    getting ready to work with her on moving. Now, that's a done deal -
    after outpatient rehab for her hip and elbow.

    After a sleep-deprived weekend, I went to wish an old college friend of
    mine a happy birthday on Facebook. She shares the same birthday as my
    mother and she would always ask how she was doing. I Looked on her
    timeline and saw lots of letters of condolence by her friends and a
    memorial service last week - she was found dead in her house, apparently
    of natural causes. She was 55.

    I want this weekend back.



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  • From Codefenix@21:4/141 to poindexter FORTRAN on Tue Oct 8 12:01:46 2024
    Re: Long weekend (not the good kind)
    By: poindexter FORTRAN to All on Tue Oct 08 2024 07:52 am

    Sorry to hear about all these goings on, and for the unexpected loss of your friend. That's a lot to deal with all at once.

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  • From Nightfox@21:1/137 to poindexter FORTRAN on Tue Oct 8 09:51:31 2024
    Re: Long weekend (not the good kind)
    By: poindexter FORTRAN to All on Tue Oct 08 2024 07:52 am

    We've been managing my mom's cognitive decline recently. The past few weeks have been dealing with my mom thinking the neighbors were calling her crazy, people driving by the house and looking in while she's cooking, and hearing people in her back yard.

    Saturday morning, she fell in the bathroom, breaking her hip and elbow. Wasn't wearing her medicalert necklace, she's lost it and didn't tell me. She had to crawl to the phone to call me. Ambulance ride to the hospital, lots of regular hallucinations combined with no food for 18 hours while they try to get her into surgery, then post-anasthesia grogginess. All this happened on her 86th birthday.

    After a sleep-deprived weekend, I went to wish an old college friend of mine a happy birthday on Facebook. She shares the same birthday as my mother and she would always ask how she was doing. I Looked on her timeline and saw lots of letters of condolence by her friends and a memorial service last week - she was found dead in her house, apparently of natural causes. She was 55.

    I want this weekend back.

    Really sorry to hear :(

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  • From Gamgee@21:2/138 to poindexter FORTRAN on Tue Oct 8 12:27:00 2024
    poindexter FORTRAN wrote to All <=-

    We had just looked at assisted care facilities last week, and were
    getting ready to work with her on moving. Now, that's a done deal -
    after outpatient rehab for her hip and elbow.

    After a sleep-deprived weekend, I went to wish an old college friend of mine a happy birthday on Facebook. She shares the same birthday as my mother and she would always ask how she was doing. I Looked on her timeline and saw lots of letters of condolence by her friends and a memorial service last week - she was found dead in her house,
    apparently of natural causes. She was 55.

    Sorry to hear of all that. Difficult things to deal with, for sure.
    Good wishes to you to get through it.



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  • From ogg@21:2/147 to poindexter FORTRAN on Tue Oct 8 13:00:54 2024
    ...snip...
    She has a urinary tract infection, apparently they present with hallucinations often in elderly women.

    7 days of oral antibiotics later, needing to make sure she keeps track
    of the dosage, and she's still experiencing problems.
    ...snip...

    You've just described my mother in law exactly. She's been through this a number of times with the hallucinations. She's in an assisted living facility now. My wife's brothers are looking at memory care facilities for her as I type. It's tough to watch the progression. I wish you peace in your
    upcoming journey.

    Scott

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  • From j0hnny a1pha@21:4/158 to poindexter FORTRAN on Tue Oct 8 12:24:17 2024
    We've been managing my mom's cognitive decline recently. The past few
    weeks have been dealing with my mom thinking the neighbors were
    calling
    her crazy, people driving by the house and looking in while she's
    cooking, and hearing people in her back yard.

    She has a urinary tract infection, apparently they present with hallucinations often in elderly women.

    7 days of oral antibiotics later, needing to make sure she keeps track
    of the dosage, and she's still experiencing problems.

    Saturday morning, she fell in the bathroom, breaking her hip and
    elbow.
    Wasn't wearing her medicalert necklace, she's lost it and didn't tell
    me. She had to crawl to the phone to call me. Ambulance ride to the hospital, lots of regular hallucinations combined with no food for 18
    hours while they try to get her into surgery, then post-anasthesia grogginess. All this happened on her 86th birthday.

    I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm going through something similar as well,
    but my mom is not even 80. As soon as kids grow up (if you have them), we
    then become our parent's caretakers.

    So hard to watch loved ones decline and struggle. We are hoping for
    another year before assisted living, but she's already broken her neck
    from a fall, lives alone, etc.

    Take care of yourself, sounds like assisted living is indeed the
    best/safest right now.

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